RAINN, translated by Janerose Ralpho
Elonlak jen eñoul million Americans rej kojerbale anḷain dating services ak dating apps. Ilo case en koj meet juon armij kaal, menke anḷain ak offḷain, ej juon menin aurok bwe kwon bok jet kain melelein ijkijen kejparok. Dating app ejjab koman criminal background check ibben ro rej kojerbal app ko, ak enij an juon make eddo in etale armij eo renij meeti. Botaab, enij aurok bwe nan kakememej ne konij ioon sexual assault (kakkure) ak joraan ilo am kojerbale dating app in ak dating anlain, ejjab am bwod.
Itulaḷ ej jet buñtōn komaron bok nan kojparok ilo am nej bwebwenato ibben ro jet ilo anlain dating app im services—menke kwoj bwebwenato ilo anlain ak ilo am turin droon. Aniwot jabdrewot tip in kejparok, ejjab alikkar, botaab enij jiban yuk jen jadrewot joraan.
En oktak pija kani koj kojerbale ilo dating profile ko am. Enij pidodo nan komman juon reverse image ilo Google. Ne profile eo am enij walok ilo instagram ak facebook account, enij pidodo an bar juon bikwot yuk ilo social media.
Kajioñ in jab connect ibben profile ko rejjab emman. Ne konij match ibben ejjelok aer bio, linked social media accounts, im juon ot an pija, emaron riabin account. Elukkin aurok bwe kwon kejparok ilo am konono ibben juon eo mae kojjab lukkin jela kajen.
Etale armij eo konij date ibben ilo social media eo an. Ne kojela etan match eo am ak handle eo aer ilo social media—emmanlak ne elon mutual motta anlain—etale page eo aer im kalikkar rej k “catfish” e kwe eniwot ne rej kojerbal et im pijan an bar juon ilo aer kar koman dating profile eo aer.
Block im report users ro rejjab eman. Komaron block im report juon bar user ne koj enjake eṇọuk ak ne enana aer konono waj nan kwe. Komaron etale page kein mokta ak elikin am match ibbeir. Leke ta koj enjake aelop ien.
Enin ej juon list ikijen jet waanjonak kon jet bwebwenato ak manit ko rejekkar eniwot scammers nan kalok juon kajadrikrik im buromej nan kojerbale juon bar user ilo juon wawein eo ejjab jekkar.
Waanjanok in manit in user komaron kojerbal nan komaan juon report:
Jab Kijor in Jake Melele Ko Am Make. Jab lelak melele ko am make nan juon armij koj kab tin jela kajen; eniwot numba in social security, credit card, melele ko ikijen bank eo am, atorej in mweomom. Dating apps im website ko am rejjab kajjitok email atorej nan kajjitok e username m password eo am, kin menin ne konij lo juon request nan login eo am, jolak e m report e.
Jab Uwaak Ne Elon Kajjitōke Ikijen Jiban kon Jaan. Jekdroon ne elap aer akwelap ak eman wunin aer kajjitok, jab uwaak kajjitok eo aer ikijen jilinlok jaan, elaptata ne ej nan overseas ak via wire transfer. Ne kobaj lo kajjitok rot in, report e nan app ak site eo koj jerbale ien eo emokajtata. Nan melele ko relaplok, lale U.S Federal Trade Commision’s tips ikijen anlain dating scams.
VIdeo chat mokta jen am meet ir. Mokta jen am match ibben bar juon date im bwebwenato ippeir, kab koman juon ien nan amiro video chat mokta jen amiro meet. Emaron juon wawein am nej jiban etale armij eo konij match ibben. Ne rejjab konaan video call, emaron juon kokale nan am jela kon suspicious activity.
Ba nan juon mottam ia ne kwoj ital e lak. Pijaki profile eo an date eo am im jilinlak nan juon iaam ro mottam. Kwojelaki juon iaan ro mottam kon ia kab naat konij itale nan ie ibben date eo am. Ne konij wonmanlok kon date eo am ilo juon jikin eo oktak, kojelaki juon iaan ro mottam kon location kaal ne am. Elap an nij jiban nan koman juon plan nan am nej text ak call juon mottam bwe ren check up ibben elikin am date.
Meet ilo Loblej. Nan date eo am jinontata, kajeon in jab meet juon armij koj kb meeti ilo mwemom, apartment eo am, kab jikin jerbal eo am. Emmanlak ne komiro en meet ilo juon mwon coffee, mwon mona, ak juon bar eo bwijin armij e. Kajeon in jab meet ilo park ko ak ijo ejej armij e.
Jab kajatrikrik kon iaal ibben date eo am. Elukkin aurok bwe en lon am make iaal nan date eo am bwe kwon kaju drool ien eo koj konaan. Make armij eo koj lomnak in date ie, ej volunteer in pick up kwe, emanlok ne koj make ettor kon waa eo waam.
Download jet ride share apps ilo cell eo am ne konij aikwij nan backup. Lale bwe cell eo am en lap kobban battery eo am im elon data ak cell service. Emanlok ne konij bar boktok charger eo am ne ebaj maat am battery in cell eo nejum.
Drebij ot ijo kwoj imenene kake. Ejjelok bwod ne kwoj draak jet dren ko rekajur ilo date eo am. Kajeon in lale limit ko am im jab lomnak kaikwijin draak ne date ne am ej draak. Emmanlok ne kwon jab ebok men ko rekajur mokta ak ilo ien koj date ibben juon armij bwe komaron top im jab eman am react nan dren ko rekajoor.
Ebok jiban jen bartender ak waiter eo. Ne kwoj enjake k ejjab eman am bed, loor enjake eo am im emakit jen date eo am ak jolak aelop kain communication ibbeir. Jab inebata ne renij ba kojaje manit—kejbarok in mour eo am ej wun eo auroktata, im date eo aikwijin melele kin menin.
Ne kwoj enjake k ejjab emman am bed ilo date eo am, kememej k komaron unmatch, block, ak report match eo am elikin am meetir bwe rejjab bar maron in tobare kwe ilju jaklej.
Original publication:
https://www.rainn.org/articles/online-dating-and-dating-app-safety-tips